I love you guys. Seriously. Thank you all for you wonderful and loving comments. They really helped. I know I will be okay. I know Henry will be okay. It will just take time for both of us (more time for me than him I think) to get used to the plan. I will hate to be away from him, but it is really our only option. My income is not disposable at all. The only way for me to leave my job to stay home would be for us to sell our house. So...that is not an option. I need to work, and that is okay. I want him to have a college fund and for us to be able to take him on vacation. I want him to be able to need new clothes and us to be able to go buy them. These are things my job lets us do. That and pay the mortgage. ( Oh and pay off the IVF...which is the best money we ever spent, but still must come from somewhere) It will only be two days a week, and we have a while before it is time. I know it will be hard, but in my heart I truly know it is best. Thank you for you sweet comments. It makes it easier to know you all understand.
Stay tuned for a post full of drama and intrigue. Tentative Post Title- "Diagnosis: A Cold"...It may be a two part series that also includes, "Diagnosis: A Cold Confirmed at the ER at 2am". Should be up tomorrow. We have had a long couple of days around here! For now, I just wanted to say thanks for being so great!
Hi Sarah...
ReplyDeleteI didnt get a chance to comment before, but I want to tell you my story. Our son Evan was born 4 months ago, and I recently went back to work. It was so hard for us to leave him, but staying home is also not an option (unless we sold this house). We 'interviewed' several daycares before we found the perfect fit. He started at 3 months, and the teachers are wonderful! They do all kinds of activites with him--sensory, motion, dialog, singing,etc. He was exhausted when he came home his first day! He is in daycare 3 days a week, because it is way too expensive to do 5 days($275/week). We know that we are doing what is best for our family. Best of luck to you!
Jen
Huntersville,NC
Oops...forgot to mention that the one bad thing about daycare is that the baby will get sick. There is really no way to avoid it. Evan had a fever and earache the first week he was there. There is really no proof that that he got sick at daycare; I work in a medical office, I could have brought something home from one of my patients. Once he starts spending time out of the house and around other people, it is just bound to happen!
ReplyDeleteJen
Oh I missed this one - I don't have kids (yet) so don't know what it's like from a mother's perspective but I have worked in a couple of nurseries and I can tell you that you are certainly not alone in feeling this way. Even the mum's who got used to leaving their kids there and knew that they were happy and secure - they still felt the pull whenever they went off to work. It IS sad - but it is sometimes the best option, even if just for a while! Besides, a beautiful, darling boy such a Henry will be completely doted on, not just by the girls who are in charge of his care but also by the ones who aren't - seriously, even the pre-school leaders used to come into the baby units to have cuddles when I worked there!! You may even find you get on well with some of the child carers - I still keep in contact with 2 of the mums from my first nursery, we got on so well!
ReplyDeleteOh and yeah they DO get sick in childcare, it's inevitable with all those kids playing together, touching each other etc and you may get sick with the bugs too - but in some ways it could be quite reassuring to know if he gets symptoms you can compare with the other mums to check its normal and get tips from them on what helped with their kids!
In other words - I'm thinking of you and can only imagine how hard this is going to be for you, but know that you aren't alone!!